EMDR & Somatic Sex Therapy, Melbourne
About Me
My journey into sexual healing started with my own pelvic pain, emotional trauma and sexual issues. The doctors, specialists and traditional talk therapists couldn’t give me answers, so I went looking for them in alternative therapies. What I found was so transformative and awe inspiring that I wanted to be a part of helping others find this healing too!
I’ve walked my own path of fear and trepidation, I know how hard it can be and I’ve got your back!
Learning about sexuality and trauma healing has shifted the way I experience my body, and opened me up to a whole new world of pleasure. My journey into sexual embodiment has involved healing old wounds and working through the hang-ups I had around sex. It has been an ongoing process, which has gotten easier over time and the rewards were definitely worth the effort.
It takes gentle guidance and support to help people to reconnect with their bodies and learn to overcome discomfort and shame. This is a huge transformative and ongoing process which affects our whole experience of life.
Great care needs to be taken when guiding someone through this period of reflection and growth; having an experience of what it feels like is essential.
I believe that we all go through healing processes and changes throughout our lifetime, but this doesn't mean that we are broken and we certainly don’t need fixing. The body already knows what it wants and needs, but sometimes we can forget how to listen to it.
My Career
I have been a sex-industry professional for over two decades; initially working in erotic dance then moving on to sex therapy, trauma processing and pelvic healing.
Bringing embodiment into erotic dance was an enlightening experience for me. Watching the small changes in each interaction, and feeling the energy shift for both me and my client was magical. Working in this line of work was fun, but I knew I was limited in the ways in which I could help people, so I made the shift into my new line of work in 2015, and I haven’t looked back since!
Feeling a scar shift and melt under my fingertips, watching the relief sparkle in the eyes of a person overcoming a painful sexual hang up, and witnessing someone reclaiming their life after years of debilitating trauma and pain are some of the most rewarding experiences I’ve had.
This is the stuff I live for and makes all the hard work worth it!
During the course of my career I have trained with sexuality, trauma, relationship and bodywork experts such as Deej Juventin, Uma Furman, Dr Joseph Kramer, Ellen Heed, Dr Bessel Van Der Kolk and Dr. Dan Siegel to name a few.
I am a Certified Sexological Bodyworker and Certified Somatic Sex educator and received my certification from the Institute of Somatic Sexology in Australia.
I received my certification in EMDR and Psychological Trauma Therapy through London College of Clinical Hypnosis, Asia and I’m a certified STREAM Practitioner.
I regularly attend professional development training and workshops to build on my skills and knowledge.
I am a member of the The Association of Certified Sexological Bodyworkers (ACSB) and Somatic Sex Educators Association Australia (SSEAA) and I work within their code of ethics. I receive regular supervision in both Sexological Bodywork and EMDR Trauma Therapy and I’m fully insured as a practice.
My Story
I could always feel that there was more to life and sex than what I was experiencing. In the beginning it wasn’t a fully formed thought and I wasn’t searching for any answers, it was more like something I felt in my body; that it was capable of more and I didn’t know what that ‘more’ was.
A few years ago I heard the term ‘squirting’. Something about the word made me feel uncomfortable, but I was also very curious as to how it worked. A lot of my friends were saying that they had experienced it, a few even said they did it a lot.
I started to feel more and more inadequate because of my inability to ejaculate, even though I considered myself to be quite sexually experienced, and had been working in the adult industry for well over a decade.
It was then that the question, which had been floating around my body for many years came to the surface of my cognition:
‘How can I experience more sexual pleasure in my body?’
Searching for the answer to this question led me on a journey of self discovery which would ultimately lead me to multiple squirting orgasms, an awakened G-spot, polyamory, gender fluidity, embodied sexuality, overcoming trauma, healing pelvic pain and a new direction in my career…
